Diary

From Conformity to Liberation: My Journey to Personal Freedom

Eric Major

March 22, 2024

“He who is brave is free.” — Seneca

“Freedom is the only worthy goal in life. It is won by disregarding things that lie beyond our control.” — Epictetus


Growing up, I felt like a puppet pulled by invisible strings—living my life for others. My mother, family, friends, and community all had their roles for me, and I dutifully played mine. But beneath the surface, a yearning for authenticity simmered—a desire to break free from the molds society had cast for me.


  1. The Weight of Expectations:
    • Living for Others: I navigated life like an actor on a stage, performing scripted scenes. My mother’s dreams became my own, and I molded myself to fit societal norms.
    • The Struggle: The pressure to conform weighed heavily. I wondered, “Who am I beneath these roles?”
    • Turning Point: My mother’s passing shattered the facade. Suddenly, I stood alone, pieces of my identity scattered.
  2. Building a New Foundation:
    • The Crumbling: Grief shook me. I picked up the shards of my old self, examining each fragment.
    • Discovery: Slowly, I realized that this reconstruction was an opportunity. The foundation I rebuilt was mine alone—unburdened by external expectations.
    • Self-Reliance: It didn’t need reinforcement from anyone else; it could bear the weight of my aspirations.
  3. Freedom Through Strength:
    • Physical and Mental Mastery: I grasped the reins of my life. Fitness, discipline, and mindfulness became my tools.
    • Overcoming Desires: I confronted my inner demons—the vices that held me captive. Freedom emerged as I conquered them.
    • Intentions and Goals: Clarity fueled my journey. Setting deliberate intentions allowed me to act as my best self.

True freedom isn’t found in conformity or rebellion—it lies in authenticity. As I shed borrowed dreams and embraced my own, I discovered liberation. Today, I stand on my unique foundation, ready to write my story—one that defies expectations and celebrates my true self.

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